2nd wives and 2nd husbands of vicious mothers...?

I have read plenty of 100s of women writing in and describing horror stories concerning 1st wives becoming vicious, vindictive and bashing ex-husbands (not just those cheating on them) who are caring fathers, using the children as pawns to torture the father. These fathers that they write about remarry and the attacks increase agasint him and the 2nd wife with false allegations, arrest of false charges of domestic violence, lies, continual harments against the 2nd wife - increasing with intensity even after the 1st wife remarries. I have found a link between these attacks and narcissim that explains all of this through reknwon psychologists and doctors who know this syndrome. I am a victim of this kind of abuser and so is my 8 year old son. My question is directed to those 2nd husbands/step fathers/first time fathers etc that I cannot find anything on the 2nd husbands who allow/support/conribute to these women turning vicious against their former husbands. MORE TO COME IN EDIT...